The Temptation of Gossip: Understanding the Urge to Share Secrets and Scandals
Exploring the Allure of Gossip and Its Effects on Social Dynamics
Why do people love gossip so much?
Knowing the latest intrigues and excites people. They want in on the latest. Plus, the latest gossip just confirms what the person already believed, even if it is false. They feel good about how the gossip confirms their contempt.
If you know the latest, you gain a certain social standing among your peers. Plus, it is good to get some relief from thinking of your own problems as you focus on the problems of another.
Those who enjoy gossiping and are not very quick or adept at critically evaluating the information. People will believe, without questions or investigation, the accuracy of the gossip. Then, it will be their duty to pass on the news.
People find the drama happening in another person’s life fascinating. They feel empowered and included as part of the mob driven to distribute and destroy the latest victim.
Why do people believe the gossip?
They want to be “in the know” and connected to those who know. Spreading rumors helps them cope with their own fears and other feelings. People have to know.
Think of the entertainment that drama brings into their lives. Now, they have something to talk about that others will want to hear.
The gossip wakes up powerful emotions like fear, anger, or excitement, as it validates and proves what people want to believe.
Knowing makes them important. Though knowing is fun, the real reason to be “in the know” is to help them make the best decisions, give them a feeling of superiority over the flawed, and make better personal decisions.
All Agree in Theory
Even the gossipers agree that spreading the evil report is wrong. Gossiping is not what they are doing. They simply desire to protect the truth and right.
Too often, people condemn gross sin and spend a lot of time being holy about it while excusing or ignoring pride, greed, covetousness, gossip, a judgmental attitude, and envy.
What is a person to do
Verify the information before spreading it. Contact the accused and get the truth and both sides of the information. Get the facts.
The gossip should stop when it hits the ears of a mature Christian. They want no part, will not spread, and if involved at all, will go directly to the source to discover the truth and stop lies in their steps.
Change the subject rather than get dirty with the latest supposed scandal.
Know that the tongue is full of deadly poison and avoid the careless loose talk.
Build others up instead of destroying and condemning.
Let love be your attitude and motivation.